I Get “No” Respect: Top 10 Rules Of Respect

Each year I attend the Willow Creek Global Leadership Summit. Bill Hybels, who  founded the Summit, spoke before 400,000 leaders throughout the world via satellite, and he nailed it in his opening talk at the 2017 Global Leadership Summit. Bill, said, “We live in a culture of division and disrespect. And it’s not just in the United States, it’s world-wide.”

Rodney Rangerfield, the Commedienne, had a hilarious comedy routine about respect, like…

  • My psychiatrist told me I’m going crazy. I told him, “If you don’t mind, I’d like a second opinion.” He said, “All right. You’re ugly too!”
  • Last week I saw my psychiatrist. I told him, “Doc, I keep thinking I’m a dog.” He told me to get off his couch.
  • What a childhood I had, why, when I took my first step, my old man tripped me!

As funny as some of his jokes were, we now live in a day of division and disrespect. As great as Social Media can be, it has also opened the door for people to pour out their venom and sarcasm.

As leaders, we need to lead the way when it comes to “Respect.” Bill Hybels challenged leaders from around the world with his “Top 10 Rules of Respect” for Leaders to live by:

Rule #1. Leaders must set the example on how to differ with others without demonizing them.

Rule #2. Leaders must set the example of how to have spirited conversations without drawing blood.

Rule #3. Leaders must not interrupt others who are talking and must not dominate the conversation.

Rule #4. Leaders must set the example of limiting their volume levels and refusing to use incendiary or belittling words that guarantee to derail a discussion.

Rule #5. Leaders must set the example of being courteous in word and deed to everyone at every level.

Rule #6. Leaders must never stereotype.

Rule #7. Leaders must apologize immediately when they are wrong, instead of denying or doubling down.

Rule #8. Leaders must form opinions carefully and stay open minded if better information comes along.

Rule #9. Leaders must set the example of showing up when they say they are going to show up and doing what they say they are going to do.

Rule #10. Leaders must set “Rules of Respect” for everyone in the organization and enforce them relentlessly.

Are you a leader? Let us lead the way for civilty and respect.

The Bible gives us a timeless principle to live by…”Show proper respect to everyone.” (1 Peter 2:17)


Chuck life


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Chuck Wysong is Executive Director at Mission Springs Camps and Conferences. He has served as founding pastor at Life Community Church. He loves church planting and he has served as a youth pastor for 20 plus years in Youth for Christ, Young Life, local churches and Director of Youth Ministry for the Evangelical Covenant Church.
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